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What Is Fisting? Is It Safe? How Do You Do It?

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What Is Fisting? Is It Safe? How Do You Do It?

Fisting is the act of inserting a hand into a partner’s vagina or anus. Many people find it to be an intense and pleasurable experience.

Like all sex acts, fisting requires the enthusiastic consent of everyone involved. Because it can be challenging, it’s best to be as safe as possible. It’s important to practice fisting with plenty of patience, trust, communication, and preparation.

What do people enjoy about fisting?

Although it is sometimes seen as an “extreme” sexual activity, people can enjoy fisting for lots of reasons! Some say that they like the intimacy that it involves. Some like the sensation of “fullness” that they get when their partner fists them. Others like knowing that they and their partner trust each other enough to practice fisting together.

Fisting can also stimulate the g-spot or prostate gland. This can be very pleasurable and make some people’s orgasms more intense.

As long as everyone is happy and excited about it, there’s nothing wrong with fisting!

Is fisting safe? How can I practice safer sex while fisting?

Fisting is a low-risk sexual activity for giving and getting STIs, but it’s still important to talk about it with your partner. Because fisting can be physically demanding, there may be some risk of injury if you’re not careful. Before you start fisting with your partner, it’s a good idea to take time to prepare. If you rush, you may cause or experience pain or tissue damage.

Here are some possible ways to make fisting safer:

  • Trim and clean your fingernails
  • Get rid of any hangnails or rough spots that may damage skin or barriers like latex gloves
  • Wear latex gloves. They’re a barrier which can prevent the transmission of STIs. They can also make entry into the anus or vagina smoother.
  • Make sure you have plenty of lube on hand: If you are using a latex barrier, it’s best to use water-based or silicone lubricant. For more on different types of lube, check out this article.

After fisting, if you or your partner experience heavy bleeding from the vagina or rectum, seek medical attention right away. This could mean an injury, like a tear in the anus or vagina.

How do I fist my partner, or get fisted by my partner?

Before you start fisting, you may want to do plenty of foreplay with your partner to get you both aroused. Many people find that the more relaxed they are, the easier it is to “take” a partner’s fist. Some people start by giving their partner an anal or genital massage.

When you are both ready, begin by having one partner insert their finger into the other’s vagina or anus. As you progress, add more fingers, but take it slow. Adding more lube can help. As well, it’s important to keep communicating, such as checking in often to see how your partner is feeling. You can try asking questions like, “Do you like that?” or “Can you try…?”

As the “giving” partner reaches further into their partner’s vagina or anus, they may curl their fingers around their thumb, which can make their partner feel more full. Others keep their hand in a more open position. Some people may also offer their partner genital stimulation (like oral sex or a hand job) to bring them to orgasm.

Sometimes the person who is doing the fisting may feel like their hand is being squeezed. If this happens, it’s important for them to remove their hand from their partner as slowly as possible. Removing your hand from your partner too fast may hurt them.

Fisting may not be for everyone, and if you don’t want to do it, or if you try it and don’t enjoy it, there’s nothing wrong with that. Like any other type of sex, it all comes down to personal preference. If you and your partner do enjoy it, it can be a rewarding part of your sex lives. Just remember to be careful and respectful of your partner’s needs and wishes.

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